A guide to Russian dating - Dating Russian women

Russian dating isn’t that much different from American, British or Australian dating. If you know who you are and you can be well-mannered, polite and charming, you may as well forget any rules. But Russia is a interesting place and knowing subtleties and nuances, or just knowing more’ can get you to (places and positions) you never thought existed. So first you have to know that Russia has always been on the crosswords of East and West, modernity and tradition, backwardness and progress. This duality is still present, so the rules pointed out below not always apply. But we will guide you through them.

Greeting your Russian date

Hand kissing. This sign of Russian chivalry can do miracles for you, but only if done the right way - you should never lift a Russian woman’s hand to the height of your mouth in order to kiss. This is an crucial no-no. You have to bend. It is a skill you can learn, but since even Russian men often kiss woman’s hands the wrong way, worry not - just keep trying. And you can always shake hands - not so exciting, but acceptable and safe.

Finally, you can use a touch-free option for greeting Russian girls (or women general for that matter) - just say hi, smile and nod. (Just say hello) though is a bad way of meeting a Russian woman on your first dating. When on second date, or even first date, the most appropriate will be kissing each other on one cheek.

Kissing each other on one cheek is very ordinary in Russia not only among Russian girls, but also among younger generation, also in a non-dating situation. So, don’t panic, you’re not doing anything intimate yet.

Giving flowers

This is very good and important element of Russian dating. Russian women love receiving flowers. They like receiving flowers on occasion – names day, birthday, anniversary, first date - or without any occasion at all. The power of flowers will astonish you. Here’s an advice that will illustrate what flowers can do: bring flowers on your first date, kiss her and say how she looks beautiful. While she’s cooling down from the stunning impression you’ve made, you stay calm as if you’ve done that 1,000 times and start any usual or neutral topic.

Door holding

This rule of Russian Dating means you hold the door and let the Russian woman go first. Saying (after you), is expected and will be appreciated and definitely (rewarded). Sometimes, when the door is heavy or you go into a packed place, the rule may mean you go first and hold the door for her. Keep in mind this is more about (holding doors) than (letting her first).

As with any other rule relating to Russian Dating – be flexible and don’t apply it all the time and towards everybody. Just be natural, she’ll love it.

Paying the bill

Yes, you are expected to pay.

Bragging vs. self-confidence

Bragging, especially about money, will get you nowhere with most Russian women. In fact you might even lose your chances. So, don’t. Just be confident, be natural, be yourself.

Criticizing

Don’t criticize a Russian woman her style or her accent. If you don’t like how she speaks or dresses, find another Russian woman, there are millions of them.

Respecting

Don’t make fun of her, her friends or family members. If you don't like something about her now, you never are going to like it in the future. So leave now before things get serious. Fortunately there are millions of beautiful Russian Women on this planet - sooner or later you'll find the right one. Just keep trying and don’t gave up.

Sex and Russian dating

Russian women are extremely beautiful, sexy and attractive, so if you just moved to Russia or if you have new immigrants in your community, you may develop some kind of sexual obsession with them. Don’t lose your head though, and, when you start dating a Russian woman, don’t push for sex, but rather give her as much time as she needs. You’ll score a plenty of points with her by being a real gentleman, and you will be in better control of your relationship’s fate.

Be honest to yourself

Do not pretend you are someone else. Such strategy will sooner or later backfire. Be truthful and stand up to your convictions if necessary.

Start learning Russian

We used the word (start) intentionally, because the process of learning Russian language never really ends, also for native speakers. Yes, it is difficult but very rewarding - even a few words in Russian will bring you lots of liking and sympathy. There is a plenty of Russian language schools for foreigners in Russia and abroad. You may also look for a private tutor – there are lots of Russian native speakers in Europe, America and other countries.

Always be a gentleman when dating a Russian woman.

Gentleman does not need any explanation here.

Have fun

Russian women are among the most gorgeous and beautiful in the world. And you are about to dating one of them. If this is not the reason to rejoice and have fun, then what is?

Russian women men must Avoid

- Women Russian who don’t like children

Men should avoid dating any Russian woman who doesn’t like children. What happens if this arrangement leads to marriage and later on there are children born into your family? You can sense how she might be around children in church or in public, but you can also tell by her regard for children in general during conversations. There is nothing more revealing about a woman’s character than the way she react to children when encountered.

- Russian women who speak ill of their parents

Do you know how this woman treats her mother? How does she speak about her father? Is there a good relationship with her parents? If you have started to date or are considering dating a Russian woman, first meet her parents or ask her about her parents and see how she speaks about them. If there is no respect or love for her parents, maybe you could ask her why. Definitely no one has perfect parents, of course, but that doesn’t mean we shouldn’t still try to respect and honor them.

- Russian women with warning signs

Another type of Russian woman who men should not consider dating is one who drinks in excess or has a substance abuse problem. There are warning signs that are sometimes present, such as drinking early in the day or taking an inordinate amount of pills, even if they are prescribed. She may have a valid reason for taking medicine, but if you sense in your heart that something is wrong, ask her why she might be taking certain medications. There is nothing wrong with asking the Russian woman you are considering dating a few questions if you have concerns. A woman who is not trying to hide anything shouldn’t have any hesitation in addressing your anxiety and concerns.